Sex and Safewords
Using Safewords in Bed
You might have heard, at times, stories or humorous musings about safewords in the sex world, especially when it comes to Fetish scenes. Having a safeword can not only be a convenient and easy way to let your partner know how you feel at any given moment, but it can also be extremely crucial when it comes to scenes where Impact Play, Edge Play, and Bondage are involved, although most find them to be useful in almost any scenario.
Imagine a scenario where you and your partner are doing a spanking session. This is a wonderful occasion for a safeword to be brought into play! As we discussed in our previous article, Bondage and BDSM Play, safewords are phrases or words used to either slow or stop activity, or let your partner know you are reaching your limit, or are becoming uncomfortable. They may be used, among many other reasons, when things are not going according to plan or when a threshold that can’t be handled has been crossed by either party.
Words like “no,” “don’t,” and, “stop,” are generally not considered the best of safewords, as they are at times essential to the roleplaying. Often times, the illusion of non-consent is a tool of the imagination used in bondage and edge-play role-playing activities. Commonly used safewords are red and yellow, but anything that does not directly pertain to the activity could also be used.
Oftentimes, it can be tempting to dismiss the safeword and simply rush ahead without one. However, safewords provide not only an easy communication tool between partners, but they can also prevent serious injury from coming to the party receiving the impact, punishment, or stimulation.
Another thing to take into account is that safewords can be fun! People come up with safewords all of the time, and they are used by more couples than we realize. In fact, Bustle.com listed The Most Common Safe Words People Use During Sex, and you'd be surprised at some of the words on the list! Some of the highlights include Peach, Vanilla, and Unicorn! Talk about unique! No matter what safeword you prefer, it is always a good idea to have one whenever anyone is in a situation where there is a potential for risk or injury. So get creative and pick a safeword with your partner! The scenes you play out will feel that much more comfortable knowing that you and your partner can speak up at any time if you're uncomfortable, and as we know, communication is everything!
So enjoy, have some naughty fun, and don't do anything we wouldn't do! ;)
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